Tyler Perry is a media mogul.
To become that he had to overcome failure, abuse, homelessness, and his own self doubt. From 1992 to 1998 he struggled to get his play “I Know I’ve Been Changed” off the ground.
His play was about surviving childhood abuse and forgiving the abuser. But Perry had yet to forgive his childhood abuser: his father.
His wasn’t until a few months before his break out performance in 1998 that he finally did what he urged his audiences to do. It was during a heated conversation that everything spilled out and at the end of it Perry said, “I forgive you.”
To this day he believes that when he forgave his father the Lord blessed the play. In his words:
If you’re reading this you’re probably goal-oriented, driven, ambitious, and love God.
But could it be possible the success you’re not seeing has less to do with your talents and more with your heart?
Could it be possible that you’re holding onto to something (OR SOMEONE) that needs to be let go?
There are certain things that “tie” the Hands of God. One example is mistreating a spouse. Peter spoke directly to husbands about honoring one’s spouse:
That term “not be hindered” is the Greek word “enkoptesthai.” It is formed from two words “en” (in) and “kopto” (to cut). So it literally means “to cut into,” “to interrupt,” “to hinder.”
The term means to stop someone by literally breaking up the road they were traveling on. It was also used of detaining a person unnecessarily. It was used in Paul’s trial before the Governor Felix: “But, to detain you no further, I beg you in your kindness to hear us briefly.” (Acts 24:4 ESV)
When we mistreat our spouses we cut into the Help that we get from God. And we detain our progress unnecessarily. And since the premier habit of Christian millionaires and billionaires is seeking God first…we wouldn’t want anything to hinder that.
The same way mistreating our spouse ties the Hands of God so does unforgiveness. Jesus minced no words:
The word “forgive” in the Greek means to “send forth, send away.” It literally means to send forth or send away the offense. Jesus said it plainly: if we don’t send forth offenses, God won’t send forth our offenses.
So let’s talk: what are the disadvantages of the grudge you’re holding?
Make no mistake about it: God loves you more you could ever realize. But if you don’t forgive others of their failures, what right would you have to expect Him to forgive you of yours?
Again Jesus minces no words:
It’s one thing to have people counting all your wrongs and failures. It’s another thing to have GOD (the Big Guy Himself) do it. It WILL NOT work out for you:
Paul spoke empatically about the dangers of unresolved anger:
Did you see that?
Anger and unforgiveness gives the Devil room to work in a person’s life. It’s almost like he’s sitting there waiting for unforgiveness to creep up so he can work.
Paul also warned the Corinthian church about the link between demonic activity and unforgiveness:
Let me ask you: is the grudge really worth giving place to Satan?
It’s been proven that unforgiveness can and will lead to serious health issues in a person. According to the Mayo Clinic forgivness has many health benefits:
And unforgiveness has the opposite effects on the body:
At end of the day IT IS NOT WORTH IT!
But what do you think?
What’s your experiences?
Have you learned how to forgive?
Or is there some unforgiveness in your heart hindering your success?